Raulito

Tag: emotional clarity

  • Things I No Longer Care About in My Late 30s

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    One of the quiet advantages of getting older is that certain things slowly lose their power over you. Things that once felt important suddenly… don’t. Not because you stop caring, but because you start caring more selectively. Somewhere along the way, I realised there are quite a few things I no longer care about the…

  • Simple Habits That Quietly Improved My Life

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    I’ve realised something recently. Most of the things that have genuinely improved my life are not big, dramatic changes. They’re small. Quiet. Almost unnoticeable at first. But over time, they’ve made a bigger difference than anything else. And the best part is, none of them required me to completely change my life. They just required…

  • Things I Absolutely Overthink (For No Good Reason)

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    I like to think of myself as a fairly chill person. Low drama. Easygoing. Go with the flow. And yet… the amount of completely unnecessary thinking that goes on in my head about the smallest social moments is honestly impressive. Take leaving. Not leaving leaving. I mean that exact moment when a conversation has clearly…

  • It’s Not Burnout. It’s Your Soul Trying to Speak

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    When exhaustion isn’t about overwork, but about misalignment. There’s a kind of exhaustion that no amount of rest seems to fix. You sleep, but you wake up tired. You take time off, but the heaviness doesn’t leave. You stop working, but you don’t feel lighter. And so you assume it’s burnout. That familiar checkpoint of…

  • The Friends Who Drain You, and the Ones Who Light You Up

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    Some people leave you tired. Others leave you alive. Friendship is one of the greatest gifts we have. But let’s be honest. Not all friendships are created equal. Over the years, I started noticing something that I couldn’t ignore anymore. After spending time with certain friends, I’d come home feeling unusually heavy. Not just tired,…

  • Being Social Without Being Available

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    I’m still social.Just not available in the way I used to be. Being social now looks quieter. Fewer plans. Smaller groups. More one-on-one time where you actually get to talk, catch up, and connect without shouting over background noise or splitting attention ten different ways. I still enjoy a big gathering once in a while,…

  • Why I’m Happiest in My Own Company

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    I’ve always been comfortable being alone. Not in a dramatic, poetic way. Not as a statement. It’s just something that settled into me early and never really left. I was an only child, and opening up to people never came easily. I grew up around a lot of unnecessary drama, the kind you don’t choose…

  • Everyday Can Be Day One

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    2025 has been the most reflective year of my life. Maybe it’s an age thing. Being in your mid to late thirties does that to you. You start looking around and asking questions you didn’t have the patience or courage to ask before. Where is my life actually going?Is this really what I want for…

  • Why I’ve Stopped Explaining Myself

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    There was a time when I explained everything. Why I spoke the way I spoke. Why I dressed the way I did. Why I liked certain restaurants and not others. Why I was selective about the people I kept close. Why I made some lifestyle choices that didn’t look “normal” or “necessary” to others. For…

  • Things I Quietly Judge (But Keep to Myself)

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    I like to think I’m a fairly tolerant person. I live in a big city. I’ve learnt patience. I’ve learnt to mind my business. I’ve learnt that everyone is fighting their own battles and that judging people rarely leads anywhere useful. And yet. There are things I quietly judge. Internally. Silently. With no intention of…